We all can feel it at times

Starting university is often portrayed as the time of your life – new friends, exciting experiences, and maybe even meeting your future partner. But the truth is, it’s not uncommon to feel lonely, especially in the early days... and that’s okay! Here’s why feeling lonely is perfectly normal and why you shouldn’t worry if things don’t fall into place right away.

Normalising loneliness

University is a massive change, and it’s natural to feel a bit lost or lonely at first. You’re in a new environment, possibly away from home for the first time, and surrounded by people you’ve never met. It’s easy to assume that everyone else is immediately finding their feet, making lifelong friends, and having a blast – but that’s not always the case.

Loneliness is something many students experience, even if they don’t talk about it. It’s important to remember that it’s a temporary feeling and that you’re not alone in feeling this way. Everyone adjusts at their own pace, so don't worry if you're adjusting slower than other people.

Not everyone meets their best friend in halls

There’s a common myth that you’ll meet your future best friend, partner, or your entire social circle within the first few weeks in your accommodation. While some people do click with their flatmates right away, it’s not the same for everyone – and that’s completely fine.

Living in halls can be a great way to meet people, but it’s not the only way. If you’re not instantly connecting with those around you, don’t worry. There are plenty of other places and opportunities to build connections - on your course, at events, through work, societies, in the city, social apps and more!

Building connections beyond your accommodation

Speaking of opportunities, the University of Bath offers numerous ways to meet people and make friends beyond your immediate living situation. Here are a few ideas:

• Join societies and clubs: With a wide range of societies and clubs to choose from, you’re bound to find something that interests you. Whether it’s sports, arts, gaming, or something more niche, joining a society is a fantastic way to meet like-minded people and form lasting friendships.
• Attend our events: We host regular events, from social gatherings to workshops and more. Attending these events is a great way to mingle with other students and expand your social circle.
• Engage in academic communities: Your course is another place to meet people who share your interests. Study groups, seminars, and course-related events can lead to strong friendships with your peers. Don’t hesitate to strike up a conversation with someone in your lectures – they might be feeling just as eager to connect as you are.
• Volunteer or get a part-time job: Volunteering or working part-time on or off campus can also help you meet new people and feel more integrated into the community. It’s a great way to gain more experience while expanding your circle.
• Explore the local area: Bath is a beautiful city with plenty to offer. Explore the local cafes, parks, and cultural sites. You might meet people who share your interests and enjoy the same activities (a lot of these places host activities too).

Taking care of your wellbeing

While you’re finding your way socially, it’s important to take care of your mental and emotional wellbeing. Here are some tips:

• Be kind to yourself: It’s easy to get caught up in comparing yourself to others, but remember that everyone’s university experience is different. Allow yourself to take things at your own pace.
• Reach out for support: If loneliness is overwhelming, don’t hesitate to reach out to our support services. We offer counselling and wellbeing services that are there to help you through challenging times.
• Stay connected with home: Keep in touch with family and friends from home. They can provide comfort and support as you adjust to uni life.

Remember, you’re not alone in this journey. With time, effort, and a little bit of patience, you’ll find your place and build the connections that will make your university experience meaningful and fulfilling.